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Monday, 24 February 2014

Growing up...(1)

So I'm checking out these pictures on The Grain's Facebook page. For those who don't live in Harare, The Grain is a Tapas Bar and Restaurant in Newlands (formally Red Bar). There are all these chicks looking hotter than 1 October along with the buff guys hanging on their every word. Kudos to the photographer though because the pictures look great! I see one or two cuties and the cougar in me raises her head to check them out (What?!). However, I realise one thing though while going through these pictures. Ndakura! I'm all grown up! I find myself looking at some of the pictures and thinking "Tjo! Tjo! Tjo! Did her mom let her go out the house looking like THAT?" Don't get me wrong, I think some of them are really fashion forward and look great.

 I know this scene well though, the atmosphere, the loud music (que a Kenrick beat here), the loud conversation, subtly scanning the place for the good looking guys, checking out who looks hotter than you, having silent eye-conversations with your friends, updating your Twitter and Foursquare statuses (Do you say statuses if it's more than one? Coz stati sounds so wrong?? Anyhoo...), ripping all the wack chicks to shreds with your girlfriends, feeling more and more ratchet as the alcohol flows through your veins, dancing like there's no tomorrow. Yes, don't y'all look all shocked. You know exactly what I'm talking about. There's absolutely nothing wrong with this scene as long you don't end up doing something you will regret for the rest of your life.

Anyway, I digress. My point here is I've realised that I am growing up. Clubbing and going out is all very well and good but you know what? I'm kind of over it. I see my friends opening their eyes wide hehehe. I don't mean our occassional crazy girls night out. That is a must a shall be enjoyed until we are 90! I mean the clubbing every weekend, getting home in the wee hours of the morning. Drinking so much you have the MOTHER of all headaches for the next three days. All of that just doesn't interest or excite me anymore. I see pictures and smile and think "let the kids have their fun". For goodness sake I was HOME for new years eve and guess what? I thoroughly enjoyed it. No #fomo whatsoever.

Nowadays I really enjoy going out with friends to really quiet places. Good music playing in the background, stimulating conversations. Good wine and good food (Not Steers at 4 a.m. lol) A nice relaxing weekend away. A day at the spa. A braai at a friends house. Spending the weekend at home catching up on all my series. A trip to the gallery to check out the latest pieces. A good book and a nice bottle of rose (yes a bottle not a glass) This is what makes me happy now and you know what? I'm content. I've been there and done that and am happy with the woman I am growing up to be.

Onto the next chapter of life ;)

"Innocent" night out with my sister from another mother :-D

Tuesday, 11 February 2014

Resolutions, resolutions!

Ok, ok. I know I'm like almost one and a half months late but better late than never right? Happy 2014 everybody! Here's hoping your 2014 is fabulous so far. Mine is extremely hectic, hence the lack of new posts. This animal called a dissertation is from hell I tell you! It's taking up all my time and driving me up the wall! Anyway, I just wanted to say a word or two about new year's resolutions. First of all, I think the whole concept is so overrated. Why should you want to start doing something only at the beginning of a new year? It kind of confines you and puts you in a box don't you think? How many times have you heard people say "Oh, I want to start eating more healthy food at the beginning of next year" or "Oh, I want to start giving more next year". Why not just do what you want to do when you think about it? Why does it have to be dressed up as a "resolution"? You want to lose weight? Great! Start now. It doesn't matter if it is May or October. Start now. Also, have you noticed how once something becomes a resolution, come February it is just but a distant memory? Funny but true. Then you never get anything done. Now, I know how totally hard it is to start something. I am like the master procrastinator it's not even funny. But you know what? Once you start it will get easier. I promise.
Happy new year all!
Secondly, I think the reason most people end up giving up on their resolutions is because they want to do the impossible. You will see a woman that weighs 95kgs saying "I want to lose 30kgs in the next two months". She weighs herself everyday for two weeks and she realises she hasn't lost so much as one kilo! Then she gives up. Resolutions need to be SMART. Specific. Measurable. Achievable. Realistic. Timeous (You see, I was listening in that Strategic Management class!!)In this case, Specific = I want to lose 30kgs. Measurable = She can see what effect her weight loss has on her clothes. Is she dropping sizes? Achievable = Can she really do this? Is she in the right frame of mind to do it? Does she have access to the right kinds of food to eat? Can she make time to work out? Realistic = Errmm, 30kgs in two months is NOT achievable if you want to lose weight in a healthy way. She needs to set a target of a year or more. Timeous. She can't just say "I want to lose weight". There has to be a time frame. The time frame forces her to work hard so she achieves her goal by the set time. This is just one example but you can do this little exercise with anything you want to achieve. 

 Lastly, I think people put themselves under too much pressure with like a million things they want to achieve. Don't try to be a jack of all trades because you will end up being a master of none. Also, resolutions don't have to be world changing achievements. They just need to mean something to YOU no matter how silly or insignificant you think they may sound to other people. Let me tell you about my resolutions for last year. I only had four. And (yes, I know I'm not supposed to start a sentence with "and" but cut me some slack here) I murked all of them too! Here they are: 1. Start my masters. Done. 2. Finish paying off my car. Done. Actually, I managed to do this way before the full amount was due so really happy about that! 3. Start a relationship with a reputable magazine and get my work published in it. Done. 4. Pay off all debts. Done. I am totally, squeaky clean, debt free! So you see. You don't have make sure you get a Nobel Peace Prize or buy a Bugatti Veyron or hook up with Laz Alonso (although hooking up with Laz in my book is very achievable. That is my baby daddy, he just doesn't know it yet!) The only thing that is critical is the first step. Just start. Keep the finish line in focus. Start anytime. Go get 'em tiger!

Le baby daddy...dude just doesn't know it yet!